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A love story is an amazing story that almost all humans to walk this earth ave written once or twice, and to some people, every year. A love story is a light to the heart of the bearer, a song of hope to the reader and a sign of happily ever after to the parties involved.
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Do you know that relationship or your journey to finding love can be a happily never after? A lot of people do know how to love but to stay in that love life is a fake life they have. Very difficult to handle emotions and people, even more, difficult to stand errors from partners and the right way to correct in love.
A love story, or yours, has to survive and blossom if you do it right. A love story could be anyone’s, can also be ruined by the writer in so many ways. Today, let us see some 5 typical ways you are ruining your own love story. Shall we?
BEING BLIND FROM THE START
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This is me shaking so many tables built on some errors from the past. A lot of humans still existing and those that have died have died and ruined their lives living on this philosophy that Love Is Blind. Love is not and will never be blind!
Why did I say that? Well, you had your eyes seeing to have noticed that amazing tall glass of melanin of a prince charming or slay queen. Your senses might have been heightened but you still had to see and then feel or interact with that person. So, if you could see him then you can still see if he has flaws you can’t deal with and that will inform your dumbness. Love is not blind, love is active and full of light. Do not be blind from the start, there are always signs to everything. If you pretend not to see the signs because of how you feel, you might be ruining the love script.
TOO MUCH ASSUMPTION FROM THE START
A lot of women face this syndrome. Not all, but quite a lot of us out there. We see a tall dark and lovely guy. He smiles and his arms captivate you. He wears good cologne and walks smartly. You already assume he is the perfect match. You sometimes don’t even know him personally but from afar you already have emotions and won’t see anything wrong with him. The worst is when he realizes you are already falling for him, some men will simply take advantage of that and exchange your love story for a one night stand or the regular type. When he is tired and satisfied with what he gets from you, then you will know he was never your type or in love with you at all. Do not assume he is good by mere seeing him from afar. It's a very cheap move.
BEING OFFICIAL WITHOUT BEING OFFICIAL
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This is a major love breaker for women. Well, some men do this but are very common with women than men. So, this is what it means to be official without being official. A woman will fall in love with a guy. She shuts the door to all her toasters and all the guys chasing her just to give her all to this one true lover of her life. Yes, it is a good and innocent thing because her dream man has been found and there is no more search or fooling around. However, the guy in question is not taking things seriously. He wants to slow down and take time to know you and love the idea. In that case, you are like 10 steps ahead of him.
This scenario is so real. A guy begins to think you are too serious and choking him out. He wants things to go slow and still be friends with other girls whereas you have dumped all your boyfriends to be with him. Then you continue to stay with him hoping that he will someday change his mind or reciprocate your love. What if he doesn’t, what if he does? I don’t know. But I know you might be ruining your relationship or dream love life that way.
DUMPING YOUR LIFE FOR HER
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This is a common thing to all people if I am very correct I stand to be corrected though. If you have ever thought of some girl as the ultimate final destination, then you are in this category. While some people argue that it is a good gesture to jackpot your destiny into another person’s, others say it the beginning of foolishness from the start. The moment you meet a girl and you want to stop your life for hers, even without being sure if you both will end up together is a stupid promise you make to yourself and her.
Ladies see it as a sign of commitment but the wise ones know it is foolishness - you are on your way down a heartbreak.
So here is it, no matter the love you have for someone, even if you are married, it will be a life well spent if you fulfill your destiny and let her do her. Things don’t always turn out the way we all planned from the beginning.
NOT SEEING THE RELATIONSHIP FOR WHAT IT IS
Source: independent.co.uk
From the beginning of a relationship, some partners have an agreement as to what the relationship is all about. Some people are in an open relationship, some people just want a sexual relationship, others are out for spenders and those who will just take care of them without anything attached. Most of these relationships are titled: friends with benefits.
It will be detrimental to you and your heart if you don’t know what the relationship status is per time. Some guys just want to have a close friend or with benefits whilst the lady involved thinks he will love her in the end. That is heartbreak in disguise. Always know or ask for the relationship status. Do not think or assume that the relationship is what it is in your mind. You might be totally wrong.
By Ade, son of Ade
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