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A relationship is by nature something that should be between two people.
Ok, there are other forms of romantic and sexual relationships such as open relationships, friends with benefits, sugar mummy and sugar daddy relationships, etc. But the most common one, the one which we all know and ultimately aspire to, is the monogamous one between just two people who have decided to be together and love on each other for as long as possible. The goal is actually to have it last forever.
A relationship by nature is meant to be between two people [Credit - Shutterstock]
But for this to actually happen, for two people to be together for as long as they want, they have to create some necessary boundaries. They need to put in place demarcations, and lines that cannot be crossed. These boundaries help regulate how partners are meant to treat other, and what their relationship with others should be like.
The following are five of such boundaries to never cross in a relationship:
1. What you call each other
In some relationships, calling each other names is a form of endearment, whereas in some others, name calling is not so tolerated. You have to decide which type of relationship you’re in and even at that, there is a limit to what you can call your partner before they start to feel some type of way.
It does not matter the tone, whether you said it playfully or not may not matter. Calling your partner some certain names may just trigger them in some way that could cause acrimony.
In some relationships, name calling is not tolerated [Credit - Shutterstock]
2. Social media use
Do you share each other’s pictures or do you not? Should your page have a lot of your partner till it starts to look like a mini-documentary series of your relationship or should it be void of such content? That is one more important boundary you may have to set especially in this digital age where oversharing could actually be a problem that couples have to deal with.
So what is the limit of what you share about your relationship? This is one of the things you have to talk about and deal with.
3. What’s shared and what’s not?
Joint finances or not? Are bills jointly paid or not? Who takes care of what or is everything just going to be split right in the middle? This is another boundary worthy of being set. Each person needs to know where their responsibilities start and where it stops.
Learn to respect personal time and personal space [Credit - Citinews]
4. Personal space
No matter how close you are, you'll both eventually need your space. Not only will you need alone time, but you'll need solo time with your friends and families. If you don't set up these boundaries in your relationship, you'll not only cause problems in your relationship but in the relationships, you have with your family and friends.
5. What’s cheating and what’s not
Of course you can’t sleep with someone else, you can’t also sneak around with someone else as that would obviously be cheating. But apart from that, what else counts as cheating? What other thing do people find ‘normal’ but your partner finds crazy uncomfortable? That is one more thing you have to find out and avoid like a plague.
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